Oh lord.
You guys would not believe the amazing time I had.
Doing "research" for this post.
WARNING: ITS A VERY LONG POST.
JUST WATCH THE VIDEOS IF YOU'RE SHORT ON TIME.
As some of you know,
I listen to and enjoy many genres of music.
But I have to admit,
Negro gospel classics will always be one of my favourites.
With classics like Amazing Grace, Swing Low Sweet Chariot, Oh Happy Day.
Its the emotion with which these songs are sung that catches me.
Technically, the music is very VERY basic.
But when coupled with the emotional aspect,
Amazing pieces are produced.
Alot of these songs are produced in times of pain,
In times of suffering,
Where the only source of relief and joy is from the Lord.
Take the history of Swing Low, Sweet Chariot.
At first glance, you'd think it was about Prophet Elijah
being taken to heaven on a chariot.
Well, yes.
But it is also symbolic of the Underground Railroad
which led many black slaves to freedom.
This version may not be everyone's cup of tea.
But I found it the most beautiful.
Another classic gospel song is Amazing Grace.
Funny thing is,
It wasn't written by a negro native.
It was actually written by John Newton.
A very white man.
He wasn't a very religious man.
In fact, he ended up working as a slave trader.
Yes, a slave trader.
A song written by a slave trader became a black gospel classic.
He was a real bastard,
Just do some reading up on wikipedia.
But here's the beauty of it all.
He was once lost and blind,
But his eyes were opened up to the errors of his ways.
The beauty of grace and forgiveness filled his heart.
I believe the key word here is forgiveness.
I actually teared up while typing this blogpost and listening to this
song at the same time. No music. Just voices.
Last but certainly not least,
Oh Happy Day,
The title speaks for itself.
Most of us had our first encounter with this song
from the show Sister Act.
Oh yeah, I still get the tingles in my spine listening to it.
Remember the emotional aspect I mentioned earlier?
Its so strong especially here.
Alot of people get turned off by the excessiveness
when these songs are sung.
IMHO its just a way of self expression.
Like dance. :)
Sorry I couldn't find a higher quality video.
But this just caught me.
So yea.
My top three favourite gospel songs.
Oh btw, here's an interesting thing about gospel music.
Its so universal in nature.
Of the three videos posted,
One's from America,
One's from Canada,
One's from Africa.
Artistes of all races and creeds have covered gospel songs,
Elvis, Jerry Lee Lewis, BB King, Beyonce and so on.
Hope you enjoyed this post as much as I did.
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Home stretch, Baby.
Jon.
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Better than life
I miss how our songs in youth used to be like this.
Those were the days.
I mean, just read the lyrics
Its honest,
Its not overcomplicated
Its REAL.
I can't stop falling in love with you.
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The great moments of your life won't necessarily be the things you do. They'll also be the things that happen to you. Now, I'm not saying you can't take action to affect the outcome of your life. You have to take action. And you will! But never forget, that on any day, you could step out the front door, and your whole life could change forever. You see the Universe has a plan kids; and that plan is always in motion. A butterfly flaps its wings, and it starts to rain. It's a scary thought, but it's also kind of wonderful. All these little parts of the machine constantly working... Making sure that you end up exactly where you're supposed to be.. exactly when you're supposed to be there. The right place. At the right time.
Jon.
Those were the days.
I mean, just read the lyrics
Its honest,
Its not overcomplicated
Its REAL.
I can't stop falling in love with you.
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The great moments of your life won't necessarily be the things you do. They'll also be the things that happen to you. Now, I'm not saying you can't take action to affect the outcome of your life. You have to take action. And you will! But never forget, that on any day, you could step out the front door, and your whole life could change forever. You see the Universe has a plan kids; and that plan is always in motion. A butterfly flaps its wings, and it starts to rain. It's a scary thought, but it's also kind of wonderful. All these little parts of the machine constantly working... Making sure that you end up exactly where you're supposed to be.. exactly when you're supposed to be there. The right place. At the right time.
Jon.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Grr.
So here I am
At 5 in the morning
Still unasleep
Waiting for Saw2 to buffer on megavideo
Thinking about every single thing on earth
Except As exams.
Its not that I don't know what I want
Trust me, I know damn well what I want out of life
But somehow I'm just not motivated for it
I wouldn't say I'm disillusioned
I wouldn't say I'm sick of this monotomy
Life goes on perfectly well
It has it ups and downs
But in the end its mostly all right
Same old same old
It's just that sometimes
It feels like there's something missing
Something that makes everything else fit
Like how lovers' fingers intertwined in complex perfection
That spark that sets off a flame
In this room thats already saturated with accelerant
With or without that missing puzzle piece
Life still goes on
It doesn't make it any harder to live life
It doesn't make my day any worse
However
It can't be filled with materialistic fulfillment
It can't be filled with lust
It can't be filled with adrenaline
It can't be filled with alcohol
Could it be God?
Could it be the security of a relationship?
Could it be the fulfillment of life ambitions?
Honestly, I don't know
Its 5 in the morning
Correction, its 5.20
My brain can think and come up with anything
Except
A conclusion.
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Quod Facimus Id Perficimus
(SM All Saints school motto)
What We Do, We Carry Through
Jon.
At 5 in the morning
Still unasleep
Waiting for Saw2 to buffer on megavideo
Thinking about every single thing on earth
Except As exams.
Its not that I don't know what I want
Trust me, I know damn well what I want out of life
But somehow I'm just not motivated for it
I wouldn't say I'm disillusioned
I wouldn't say I'm sick of this monotomy
Life goes on perfectly well
It has it ups and downs
But in the end its mostly all right
Same old same old
It's just that sometimes
It feels like there's something missing
Something that makes everything else fit
Like how lovers' fingers intertwined in complex perfection
That spark that sets off a flame
In this room thats already saturated with accelerant
With or without that missing puzzle piece
Life still goes on
It doesn't make it any harder to live life
It doesn't make my day any worse
However
It can't be filled with materialistic fulfillment
It can't be filled with lust
It can't be filled with adrenaline
It can't be filled with alcohol
Could it be God?
Could it be the security of a relationship?
Could it be the fulfillment of life ambitions?
Honestly, I don't know
Its 5 in the morning
Correction, its 5.20
My brain can think and come up with anything
Except
A conclusion.
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Quod Facimus Id Perficimus
(SM All Saints school motto)
What We Do, We Carry Through
Jon.
Runaway.
Not really in the mood to blog.
I'm tired.
Like really tired.
On a brighter note.
Came across this on someone's tumblr.
And found it hilarious.
Go try it out.
www.omegle.com
Its got its share of perverts but its fun.
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Robin: How do you do this Ted? How do you sit out here all night, in the cold, and still have faith that your pumpkin's going to show up? Ted: Well, I'm pretty drunk. Look I know the odds are, the love of my life isn't going to magically walk through that door in a pumpkin costume at 2:43 in the morning. But it just seems as nice a spot as any to just ... you know, sit and wait.
Jon.
I'm tired.
Like really tired.
On a brighter note.
Came across this on someone's tumblr.
And found it hilarious.
Go try it out.
www.omegle.com
Its got its share of perverts but its fun.
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Jon.
Friday, October 22, 2010
For the doctors to be.
A friend of mine recently used her first note on fb to post a very inspiring article.
Although i believe it was meant for doctors,
I was tagged along in it,
And i must say,
It was really inspiring.
However,
I read this today,
And it kinda popped the magic bubble.
That's life isn't it?
Its a balance of dreams and reality.
This one's for you Ryu.
And all other doctor/dentists to be.
Sigh.
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Although i believe it was meant for doctors,
I was tagged along in it,
And i must say,
It was really inspiring.
However,
I read this today,
And it kinda popped the magic bubble.
That's life isn't it?
Its a balance of dreams and reality.
This one's for you Ryu.
And all other doctor/dentists to be.
Sigh.
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Malaysian Govt Doctors Criteria
Criterias for becoming a Malaysian Govt Doctor. Theres no need for an aptitude test. Students should consider these requirements:
1. No life outside medicine; this includes dating, sports, clubbing, chores for your parents and visiting the toilet.
2. Not to live with your parents. Move out ASAP as they will never understand the ludicrous working hours that u go through. Furthermore, chores are not suitable for u as to rule No. 1.
3. Not to be married until completion of all 4 years of Govt Compulsory service as u will be transferred left and right to some of the most remote Govt clinics in Malaysia. Having wife and kids to follow you to your new working area may increase high level of stress on all parties. Furthermore, if your spouse is a Govt Doctor, he/she will also be transferred away from u and no matter what appeal is made, KKM will put up a deaf ear (unless u have big cables or of a certain skin color).
4. If married, no to have children until u finish all 4 years of Govt Compulsory service, as to which u and your spouse will not have much time for your child/children or they end up not recognizing u and refer the Indonesian maid as their mother (change in language patterns commonly follow).
5. To obtain life insurance once your govt service begins as there is not many claims for accidents during work. Don’t be fooled, Doctoring in Malaysia is hazardous.
6. Able to withstand 36 hours of non stop work and stress without mistakenly labeling Left for Right or uvula for vulva (or Volvo S40)
7. To buy a car with complete safety features (like I’m doing) which includes multiple airbags, ABS, EBD, side-front-rear-top-parallel and diagonal impact bars and seat belts to ensure survivability if u are involved in an accident because your driving resembled a drunkard maniac after working in the hospital for 40 hrs non stop.
8. Constant supply of coffee
9. Nicotine Patch as u will have the urge to start smoking due to overwhelming stress
10. Interest in watching medical sitcoms such as House MD, Scrubs, ER, Grays Anatomy and Chicago Hope to inspire u to continue your life as a doctor as the exciting things u see on TV does not resemble the real life of a Malaysian govt doctor.
11. Not to have any pets or plants (not even cactuses) as u will have no time to feed or care for them and eventually all will end up in your mortuary.
12. Able to endure the stench of your own sweat as to when 36 hours “on call” does not permit u time to bathe or freshen up.
13. Able to carry on working without food or water over 15 hours. ( I was in OT for 16 hrs without food, water or bathroom breaks). If during fasting month, able to break your fast with ?water for injection? as u had no time to buy food.
14. Able to come to work with fever/cough/illness or physical disability (sprained ankle etc) as to which doctors do not deserve MCs. (My MO was on crutches during rounds)
15. Able to stand scolding, destructive criticism, kiss ass behaviors, racial bias, finger pointing, scape goating, and in competency from your superiors.
16. Able to withstand the jealousy when your friends call u up for some fun and ur stuck in the hospital during on call.
Extract from:
http://standup.blogspirit.com/ Via jordanachin.tumblr.com
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Where are you now.
Whether you like it or not,
To my favorite teacher
who told me never give up
To my fifth grade crush
Who I thought I really loved
To the guys I've missed and the girls we've kissed
Where are you now
To my ex-best friends
Don't know how we grew apart
To my favorite band
Sing along in my car
To the face I see in my memory
Where are you now
Where are you now?
Cause I'm thinking of you
You showed me how
How to live like I do
If it wasn't for you
I would never be who I am
To my first girlfriend
I thought for sure was the one
To my last girlfriend
Sorry that I screwed it up
To the ones I loved
Didn't show it enough
Where are you now
Where are you now
Cause I'm thinking of you
You showed me how
How to live like I do
If it wasn't for you
I would never be who I am
I know we'll never see those days again
And things will never be that way again
But that's just how it goes
People change but I know
I won't forget you
To the ones who came
Who we're there from the start
To the love that left
And took a piece of my heart
To the few who'd swear
They'd never go anywhere
Where are you now?
Where are you now?
Cause I'm thinking of you
You showed me how
How to live like I do
If it wasn't for you
I would never be how I am
If it wasn't for you
I would never be who I am
If it wasn't for you
I'd be nothing
Where are you now?
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Ultimately, we only see what we want to see when we're ready to see it.
Jon.
who you are today,
Is a product of your past.
Every good memory you have,
Every bad memory you trying to forget,
They all have a part to play in making you who you are today.
Whether its an ex whom things ended badly with,
Or the biggest crush you had who turned you down,
Or that friend whom things have gotten awkward with,
Every bit of your past,
Has made you become what you are today.
And will determine your tomorrow.
With that in mind,
What you're doing today,
Will determine who you are tomorrow.
From something obvious like choosing your university course,
To choosing which friends to invest in,
You have a say over what type of future you want.
So what are you going to do today?
How are you going to live your life?
Its not about living like there's no tomorrow.
Its about living for tomorrow.
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Where Are You Now - Honor Society
To my favorite teacher
who told me never give up
To my fifth grade crush
Who I thought I really loved
To the guys I've missed and the girls we've kissed
Where are you now
To my ex-best friends
Don't know how we grew apart
To my favorite band
Sing along in my car
To the face I see in my memory
Where are you now
Where are you now?
Cause I'm thinking of you
You showed me how
How to live like I do
If it wasn't for you
I would never be who I am
To my first girlfriend
I thought for sure was the one
To my last girlfriend
Sorry that I screwed it up
To the ones I loved
Didn't show it enough
Where are you now
Where are you now
Cause I'm thinking of you
You showed me how
How to live like I do
If it wasn't for you
I would never be who I am
I know we'll never see those days again
And things will never be that way again
But that's just how it goes
People change but I know
I won't forget you
To the ones who came
Who we're there from the start
To the love that left
And took a piece of my heart
To the few who'd swear
They'd never go anywhere
Where are you now?
Where are you now?
Cause I'm thinking of you
You showed me how
How to live like I do
If it wasn't for you
I would never be how I am
If it wasn't for you
I would never be who I am
If it wasn't for you
I'd be nothing
Where are you now?
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Ultimately, we only see what we want to see when we're ready to see it.
Jon.
Ohana means family. Family means no one gets left behind.
I've never posted the song "Just The Way You Are" here for a few reasons.
Oh her eyes, her eyes
Make the stars look like they're not shining
Her hair, her hair
Falls perfectly without her trying
She's so beautiful
And I tell her every day
Yeah I know, I know
When I compliment her
She wont believe me
And its so, its so
Sad to think she don't see what I see
But every time she asks me do I look okay
I say
When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile,
The whole world stops and stares for awhile
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
Her lips, her lips
I could kiss them all day if she'd let me
Her laugh, her laugh
She hates but I think its so sexy
She's so beautiful
And I tell her every day
Oh you know, you know, you know
Id never ask you to change
If perfect is what you're searching for
Then just stay the same
So don't even bother asking
If you look okay
You know I say
When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile,
The whole world stops and stares for awhile
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
The way you are
The way you are
Girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile,
The whole world stops and stares for awhile
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
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So yea,
I'm about a quarter of my way through As.
3 out of 8 papers.
Its relieving to know I wont need to enter the damn lab again.
IF, i do well in my As.
Fingers crossed.
Can't wait for that dive trip.
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“But that’s impossible, you deleted his number!” – Lily
“Well I tried to, but then this thing popped up on my phone and said ‘Are you sure?’ and I wasn’t sure! I can’t lie to my phone!” – Robin
Jon.
1) Its been so overplayed everywhere that posting it would be meaningless.
2) Its got beautiful lyrics but lousy music to back it.
3) I was waiting for a cover worth listening to.
Wonder of wonders, BoyceAvenue did a brilliant cover that conveyed
the true beauty of the lyrics with suitable(jiwang) music.
So here you go, my vote for the best cover of Just The Way You Are.
Oh her eyes, her eyes
Make the stars look like they're not shining
Her hair, her hair
Falls perfectly without her trying
She's so beautiful
And I tell her every day
Yeah I know, I know
When I compliment her
She wont believe me
And its so, its so
Sad to think she don't see what I see
But every time she asks me do I look okay
I say
When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile,
The whole world stops and stares for awhile
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
Her lips, her lips
I could kiss them all day if she'd let me
Her laugh, her laugh
She hates but I think its so sexy
She's so beautiful
And I tell her every day
Oh you know, you know, you know
Id never ask you to change
If perfect is what you're searching for
Then just stay the same
So don't even bother asking
If you look okay
You know I say
When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile,
The whole world stops and stares for awhile
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
The way you are
The way you are
Girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile,
The whole world stops and stares for awhile
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
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So yea,
I'm about a quarter of my way through As.
3 out of 8 papers.
Its relieving to know I wont need to enter the damn lab again.
IF, i do well in my As.
Fingers crossed.
Can't wait for that dive trip.
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“But that’s impossible, you deleted his number!” – Lily
“Well I tried to, but then this thing popped up on my phone and said ‘Are you sure?’ and I wasn’t sure! I can’t lie to my phone!” – Robin
Jon.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
TIME IS OF THE ESSENCE.
No time for updates.
Study Study Study!
Who am I kidding.
Decent day.
Woke up,
Went for a funeral,
Got pissed at people who need to learn to silence their phones,
Got hungry.
Like damn DAMN hungry,
Lunch,
Nap,
And here I am sitting here with a bowl a cup noodles updating.
Wasted day?
Probably.
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I have no idea why but I'm really starting to like Bruno Mars.
Too bad he's a junkie.
Could've been a second Usher(or Jesse McCartney).
so easy to forget all of the little things we do
like callin' for no reason
just the shape of words
baby i love you
i know lately
i've been busy
but a second doesn't go by without you crossing my mind
it's been so long
since we had time
let's take a day and make everything right...
just take my hand
fall in love with me again
let's run away to the place
when love first found us
let's run away for the day
don't need anyone around us
oh oh oh
when everything in love gets so complicated
it only takes a day to change it
well i have to say
can't wait
all i need is a day
so let's run away
let's run away
just for the day
run away
run away...
girl you've been so patient
spending nights alone and not complaining
but i'll make it up to you
and i promise today i won't keep you waiting
please give me this one chance to remind you of everything we had
i won't give up
i'm too much in love
and i want you to know that...
just take my hand
fall in love with me again
let's run away to the place
when love first found us
let's run away for the day
don't need anyone around us
oh oh oh
when everything in love gets so complicated
it only takes a day to change it
well i have to say
can't wait
all i need is a day
so let's run away for the day
and i'll give everything in this moment
and i promise to make everyday just like today...
let's run away to the place
when love first found us
let's run away for the day
don't need anyone around us
oh oh oh
when everything in love gets so complicated
it only takes a day to change it
well i have to say
can't wait
all i need is a day
so let's run away...
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Every failure brings with it a seed of an equivalent success
Jon.
Study Study Study!
Who am I kidding.
Decent day.
Woke up,
Went for a funeral,
Got pissed at people who need to learn to silence their phones,
Got hungry.
Like damn DAMN hungry,
Lunch,
Nap,
And here I am sitting here with a bowl a cup noodles updating.
Wasted day?
Probably.
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I have no idea why but I'm really starting to like Bruno Mars.
Too bad he's a junkie.
Could've been a second Usher(or Jesse McCartney).
so easy to forget all of the little things we do
like callin' for no reason
just the shape of words
baby i love you
i know lately
i've been busy
but a second doesn't go by without you crossing my mind
it's been so long
since we had time
let's take a day and make everything right...
just take my hand
fall in love with me again
let's run away to the place
when love first found us
let's run away for the day
don't need anyone around us
oh oh oh
when everything in love gets so complicated
it only takes a day to change it
well i have to say
can't wait
all i need is a day
so let's run away
let's run away
just for the day
run away
run away...
girl you've been so patient
spending nights alone and not complaining
but i'll make it up to you
and i promise today i won't keep you waiting
please give me this one chance to remind you of everything we had
i won't give up
i'm too much in love
and i want you to know that...
just take my hand
fall in love with me again
let's run away to the place
when love first found us
let's run away for the day
don't need anyone around us
oh oh oh
when everything in love gets so complicated
it only takes a day to change it
well i have to say
can't wait
all i need is a day
so let's run away for the day
and i'll give everything in this moment
and i promise to make everyday just like today...
let's run away to the place
when love first found us
let's run away for the day
don't need anyone around us
oh oh oh
when everything in love gets so complicated
it only takes a day to change it
well i have to say
can't wait
all i need is a day
so let's run away...
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Every failure brings with it a seed of an equivalent success
Jon.
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Feeling Chivalrous?
Hey guys,
Read this yesterday on a link a friend shared.
I think we need to rethink our relationships.
Yes, yes, we're still young.
But reality kinda hit me when I got news that
1. A friend of mine of equal age recently got married and is now pregnant.
2. A friend of mine passed away in KL.
3. I started sending in my uni applications.
4. My mum decided to talk to me about my future.
Like it or not, all of us are growing up.
And relationships are definitely a big part of the process.
So here's from Jaeson Ma's blog.
Yes it's (damn) long. But its very VERY worth the read.
Especially for the guys.
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WE NEED MEN OF GOD WHO WILL LOVE & RESPECT WOMEN OF FAITH...
I spent the day with a group of men in our house church learning what it takes to be a man of God when it comes to loving and respecting women. In our day an age most men are not men, they are boys. Most guys still want to marry their mom, have a women serve and take care of them, are not willing to take initiative or commit in a relationship, most men are still living in fear, not pursuing their callings by settling for “safe” because its easy. This is sad, upsetting and the standard must change.
Women don’t want to marry boys, they want to marry men. Women don’t want boys they have to put up with, clean up after and take care of, they want to be lead, pursued and taken on an exciting life adventure. If you go to most of the churches in the Western world today, you will find that there are very few spiritual men, instead there are many spiritual women. It’s disappointing, but I hear it from women of faith all the time, “Pastor Jaeson, where are the godly men?”
Today, a good brother and leader in our GBS community Daniel Ra explained what God showed him to be the “5 Pillars of Manhood” in how men must love, respect and serve women. It was enlightening and reinforcing from what I have been teaching men for years when it comes to pursuing a woman of God… of course none of us are perfect, we all have our mistakes, but we must each strive to be better and greater than what we were before yesterday, everyday making an effort to be more like God, to be just like Jesus, to be a man of faith and honor.
The 5 Pillars of Manhood…
1. Lead - A man must be a leader in a relationship, in a marriage, in a family. There are no excuses. A woman doesn’t want to make the decisions for her man, she wants her man to lead in the relationship. A man must take initiative. A man of God is leader, not a follower, a servant, not a slave, a hero not a coward. A man of God knows God and therefore knows himself. He should be the leader spiritually first, emotionally, mentally and physically he should set the standard for others to follow.
2. Protect - A real man of God will protect his partner. That means he is willing to lay down his very own life, needs and wants for the protection of the one he loves. Every decision he makes when it comes to a relationship has her protection in mind. A woman needs to feel secure, that she is protected and safe with her man. She doesn’t need to second guess, wonder if she will be okay, or have her heart and mind played with. A real man of God will not only protect his woman physically, but also mentally, emotionally and spiritually. He always has the highest good in his mind for her safety, well being and wholeness. This is for the Christian guys out there, don’t emotionally rape a sister, play with her heart and tell her you are just her brother or friend. That is BS. Man up. You either pursue a woman of God because she is God’s precious creation, or you don’t try touching it at all, or play with their hearts emotionally, unless you are willing to be up front and clear with your intentions and the direction of the relationship from the start. Emotional rape is as painful to a woman as physical rape. Women are emotional beings and their hearts are not to be played with. Protect your sisters heart.
3. Provide – A real man of God will do whatever it takes to provide for his significant other. That means monetarily in finances, in basic needs and as well as what she desires. When a man asks a father for his daughter in marriage, the father will not ask, “How are you doing spiritually first?” No, the first thing the father will ask is, “How will you provide for my daughter?” Because part of being and becoming a man is providing for others, especially your wife and children. If a man can’t provide, he isn’t a man. God gave us hands and we must put our hands to work, no excuses to be lazy, God made us to rule the earth. Women are not be treated as toys, trophies or a luxury item, women are God’s highest creation, the very image of God.
I tell men all the time, “Treat your woman like a queen and you will live like a king.” Don’t be cheap brothers, you need to go all out when it comes to pursuing a woman. This is not a one time thing, but a continual practice. Women were created for beauty. They were created beautiful, to feel beautiful to be treated beautiful. You don’t handle a rose without care, it is the same with a woman of God, you treat her with the utmost care, honor and respect. Practically, that means you don’t take a woman to Denny’s on a first date, you take her to a place that hurts your wallet, but it’s worth it because she is worthy.
Also, men must also provide for women emotionally. When a women asks you, “How are you doing?” She is really asking, “How are you being?” Meaning, what are you feeling, thinking, seeing, being about at the moment. To love a women we must provide at every level – basic needs all the way to providing for them mentally, emotionally and spiritually, if not their hearts will die. Be a man, provide for your women.
4. Integrity – A true man of God is a man of his word. Too many men in our culture break promises, play with women’s hearts, date girls as if it was a game, and have no respect for women at all. This is disgusting. In old times, when a man said “You have my word!” that word was bond, it was as if an actual contract had been written, because your word was your reputation. How many men do we know today who say one thing, but do another?(guilty). Men who do not keep their word, their promise or follow through with their verbal commitments. In our culture we don’t take words seriously, but in God’s world words are everything. Blessings and curses come out of the same mouth. What comes out of our mouths determines what is truly in our hearts.
What a woman wants is a man of integrity. Someone who says what he does and does what he says. Someone they can trust at their word. So as a man you must come through. Words means nothing if they are not backed up with action. Don’t say sorry unless you mean it. Don’t say sorry unless you are able to back up your apologies with doing the right thing. Integrity is doing what is right, whether people are watching or not. Integrity is what you do when no one is looking. Does your woman trust you completely? If not, it is a question of integrity. Don’t tell a women you love her unless your love shows, words carry weight. They either carry false weight or real weight, a woman knows when a man means what he says(really?).
So live by your words, live by action, be a living proof of your values, convictions and commitments. Don’t get involved in a relationship unless you are sure this what you want and what God is leading you both to do. I’ve had my share of mistakes in the past, where I got into a relationship without thinking about the consequences, protecting my sisters heart and the fear of the Lord from the get go, I’ve had to make amends and face the results of my sin and foolishness. Trust me brothers, don’t do what I’ve done in the past, don’t play games, don’t feed your fleshly desires, rather seek God, seek the best interest of the one you are pursuing, be honest, forthright from the start about your commitment and your vision for the relationship and stick to your word. Be a man of integrity.
If you pursue a women, it should be with the intentions of marriage. If not, stop playing yourself and her. It’s not about finding the right woman, it’s about being the right man. That starts with first knowing God in order to know yourself, then you will know how to love and respect a woman.
5) Courage - You are not a man until you climb the great wall of China! This is what it says at the actual great wall. Well, I have climbed the Great Wall of China so I guess I must be more of a man than others, just kidding. What is the greater underlying message here? It is a message of courage. It is a message of adventure. A man of God is a man of courage, a man of adventure, a man who is willing to take risks and do the impossible. Men were born to live a life of great adventure. Men were created to fight battles. Men were created to rescue beauties. Men were created to live.
Sadly, most men are not living. Most men are cowards, fearful and afraid of failure. Imprisoned by their own thinking and what others think about them. Many men are just boys waiting for their mother’s approval, or the approval of others in society. Most men I know are people pleasers, not God pleasers. They are more afraid of how others may reject them or not accept them if they choose to take the road less traveled.
All men die, few men truly live.
Women don’t want nice guys or good boys, women want men on a mission, men on adventure, men who are dangerous. This is why many women are drawn to bad boys because bad boys live with a sense of risk, danger, mystery and unknown. Men were created to live fearless and to live by faith. But if you walk into a church today what you find are a bunch of boys playing with their toys, working at predictable jobs — not their true callings, and living boring lives. It’s sad, but most guys get their sense of adventure from playing video games or watching TV, what happened to our men?
A man of faith will sweep a woman of God off of her feet. He will challenge her to go the distance in God, in their relationship and in life. A man of courage is someone who in the face of fear still chooses to move forward with trust in God, setting out to obey God’s voice at whatever the cost, because that is what matters the most. We need men who have hearts fully alive, hearts full of passion and are on a mission to change the world. There is a high cost to being a man of courage, there is a price to pay if we want to be a real hero, it means we are willing to go against the grain, follow God against all odds and live a life of honor, courage and righteousness.
When a woman finds a man of courage, it will encourage her to be all that God has created her to be. As a man, your goal is not how your woman can serve you, but how can you serve your woman? As a man, your goal is not how a woman can serve your destiny, but how can you do all that you possibly can to release the fullness of God’s glory and destiny in her.
Men take the lead, protect at all costs, provide in every way, live by your word and live a life of adventure with the Holy Spirit — obey God, not man and you will be the man of God you were created to be — and your woman will love you for it.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Bruno Mars - Count On Me
Read this yesterday on a link a friend shared.
I think we need to rethink our relationships.
Yes, yes, we're still young.
But reality kinda hit me when I got news that
1. A friend of mine of equal age recently got married and is now pregnant.
2. A friend of mine passed away in KL.
3. I started sending in my uni applications.
4. My mum decided to talk to me about my future.
Like it or not, all of us are growing up.
And relationships are definitely a big part of the process.
So here's from Jaeson Ma's blog.
Yes it's (damn) long. But its very VERY worth the read.
Especially for the guys.
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WE NEED MEN OF GOD WHO WILL LOVE & RESPECT WOMEN OF FAITH...
I spent the day with a group of men in our house church learning what it takes to be a man of God when it comes to loving and respecting women. In our day an age most men are not men, they are boys. Most guys still want to marry their mom, have a women serve and take care of them, are not willing to take initiative or commit in a relationship, most men are still living in fear, not pursuing their callings by settling for “safe” because its easy. This is sad, upsetting and the standard must change.
Women don’t want to marry boys, they want to marry men. Women don’t want boys they have to put up with, clean up after and take care of, they want to be lead, pursued and taken on an exciting life adventure. If you go to most of the churches in the Western world today, you will find that there are very few spiritual men, instead there are many spiritual women. It’s disappointing, but I hear it from women of faith all the time, “Pastor Jaeson, where are the godly men?”
Today, a good brother and leader in our GBS community Daniel Ra explained what God showed him to be the “5 Pillars of Manhood” in how men must love, respect and serve women. It was enlightening and reinforcing from what I have been teaching men for years when it comes to pursuing a woman of God… of course none of us are perfect, we all have our mistakes, but we must each strive to be better and greater than what we were before yesterday, everyday making an effort to be more like God, to be just like Jesus, to be a man of faith and honor.
The 5 Pillars of Manhood…
1. Lead - A man must be a leader in a relationship, in a marriage, in a family. There are no excuses. A woman doesn’t want to make the decisions for her man, she wants her man to lead in the relationship. A man must take initiative. A man of God is leader, not a follower, a servant, not a slave, a hero not a coward. A man of God knows God and therefore knows himself. He should be the leader spiritually first, emotionally, mentally and physically he should set the standard for others to follow.
2. Protect - A real man of God will protect his partner. That means he is willing to lay down his very own life, needs and wants for the protection of the one he loves. Every decision he makes when it comes to a relationship has her protection in mind. A woman needs to feel secure, that she is protected and safe with her man. She doesn’t need to second guess, wonder if she will be okay, or have her heart and mind played with. A real man of God will not only protect his woman physically, but also mentally, emotionally and spiritually. He always has the highest good in his mind for her safety, well being and wholeness. This is for the Christian guys out there, don’t emotionally rape a sister, play with her heart and tell her you are just her brother or friend. That is BS. Man up. You either pursue a woman of God because she is God’s precious creation, or you don’t try touching it at all, or play with their hearts emotionally, unless you are willing to be up front and clear with your intentions and the direction of the relationship from the start. Emotional rape is as painful to a woman as physical rape. Women are emotional beings and their hearts are not to be played with. Protect your sisters heart.
3. Provide – A real man of God will do whatever it takes to provide for his significant other. That means monetarily in finances, in basic needs and as well as what she desires. When a man asks a father for his daughter in marriage, the father will not ask, “How are you doing spiritually first?” No, the first thing the father will ask is, “How will you provide for my daughter?” Because part of being and becoming a man is providing for others, especially your wife and children. If a man can’t provide, he isn’t a man. God gave us hands and we must put our hands to work, no excuses to be lazy, God made us to rule the earth. Women are not be treated as toys, trophies or a luxury item, women are God’s highest creation, the very image of God.
I tell men all the time, “Treat your woman like a queen and you will live like a king.” Don’t be cheap brothers, you need to go all out when it comes to pursuing a woman. This is not a one time thing, but a continual practice. Women were created for beauty. They were created beautiful, to feel beautiful to be treated beautiful. You don’t handle a rose without care, it is the same with a woman of God, you treat her with the utmost care, honor and respect. Practically, that means you don’t take a woman to Denny’s on a first date, you take her to a place that hurts your wallet, but it’s worth it because she is worthy.
Also, men must also provide for women emotionally. When a women asks you, “How are you doing?” She is really asking, “How are you being?” Meaning, what are you feeling, thinking, seeing, being about at the moment. To love a women we must provide at every level – basic needs all the way to providing for them mentally, emotionally and spiritually, if not their hearts will die. Be a man, provide for your women.
4. Integrity – A true man of God is a man of his word. Too many men in our culture break promises, play with women’s hearts, date girls as if it was a game, and have no respect for women at all. This is disgusting. In old times, when a man said “You have my word!” that word was bond, it was as if an actual contract had been written, because your word was your reputation. How many men do we know today who say one thing, but do another?(guilty). Men who do not keep their word, their promise or follow through with their verbal commitments. In our culture we don’t take words seriously, but in God’s world words are everything. Blessings and curses come out of the same mouth. What comes out of our mouths determines what is truly in our hearts.
What a woman wants is a man of integrity. Someone who says what he does and does what he says. Someone they can trust at their word. So as a man you must come through. Words means nothing if they are not backed up with action. Don’t say sorry unless you mean it. Don’t say sorry unless you are able to back up your apologies with doing the right thing. Integrity is doing what is right, whether people are watching or not. Integrity is what you do when no one is looking. Does your woman trust you completely? If not, it is a question of integrity. Don’t tell a women you love her unless your love shows, words carry weight. They either carry false weight or real weight, a woman knows when a man means what he says(really?).
So live by your words, live by action, be a living proof of your values, convictions and commitments. Don’t get involved in a relationship unless you are sure this what you want and what God is leading you both to do. I’ve had my share of mistakes in the past, where I got into a relationship without thinking about the consequences, protecting my sisters heart and the fear of the Lord from the get go, I’ve had to make amends and face the results of my sin and foolishness. Trust me brothers, don’t do what I’ve done in the past, don’t play games, don’t feed your fleshly desires, rather seek God, seek the best interest of the one you are pursuing, be honest, forthright from the start about your commitment and your vision for the relationship and stick to your word. Be a man of integrity.
If you pursue a women, it should be with the intentions of marriage. If not, stop playing yourself and her. It’s not about finding the right woman, it’s about being the right man. That starts with first knowing God in order to know yourself, then you will know how to love and respect a woman.
5) Courage - You are not a man until you climb the great wall of China! This is what it says at the actual great wall. Well, I have climbed the Great Wall of China so I guess I must be more of a man than others, just kidding. What is the greater underlying message here? It is a message of courage. It is a message of adventure. A man of God is a man of courage, a man of adventure, a man who is willing to take risks and do the impossible. Men were born to live a life of great adventure. Men were created to fight battles. Men were created to rescue beauties. Men were created to live.
Sadly, most men are not living. Most men are cowards, fearful and afraid of failure. Imprisoned by their own thinking and what others think about them. Many men are just boys waiting for their mother’s approval, or the approval of others in society. Most men I know are people pleasers, not God pleasers. They are more afraid of how others may reject them or not accept them if they choose to take the road less traveled.
All men die, few men truly live.
Women don’t want nice guys or good boys, women want men on a mission, men on adventure, men who are dangerous. This is why many women are drawn to bad boys because bad boys live with a sense of risk, danger, mystery and unknown. Men were created to live fearless and to live by faith. But if you walk into a church today what you find are a bunch of boys playing with their toys, working at predictable jobs — not their true callings, and living boring lives. It’s sad, but most guys get their sense of adventure from playing video games or watching TV, what happened to our men?
A man of faith will sweep a woman of God off of her feet. He will challenge her to go the distance in God, in their relationship and in life. A man of courage is someone who in the face of fear still chooses to move forward with trust in God, setting out to obey God’s voice at whatever the cost, because that is what matters the most. We need men who have hearts fully alive, hearts full of passion and are on a mission to change the world. There is a high cost to being a man of courage, there is a price to pay if we want to be a real hero, it means we are willing to go against the grain, follow God against all odds and live a life of honor, courage and righteousness.
When a woman finds a man of courage, it will encourage her to be all that God has created her to be. As a man, your goal is not how your woman can serve you, but how can you serve your woman? As a man, your goal is not how a woman can serve your destiny, but how can you do all that you possibly can to release the fullness of God’s glory and destiny in her.
Men take the lead, protect at all costs, provide in every way, live by your word and live a life of adventure with the Holy Spirit — obey God, not man and you will be the man of God you were created to be — and your woman will love you for it.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.
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Life isn't about finding yourself, its about creating yourself.
Jon.
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SO ADDICTIVE LA THIS SONG.
Bruno Mars - Count On Me
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